Don'ts for Husbands
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- Author：Blanche Ebbutt
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Summary
Don'ts for Husbands and Don'ts for Wives are facsimile editions of the original books published by A&C Black in 1913。 Each pocket-sized book contains hundreds of snippets of entertaining advice for a happy marriage， which rings true almost 100years after they were written。 The reissued titles are ideal Christmas stocking fillers， and gifts for weddings， engagements and anniversaries。 Advice appears under the following chapters: 1。 Personalities 2。 How to Avoid Discord 3。 Habits 4。 Financial Matters 5。 Evenings at Home 6。 Jealousy 7。 Recreation 8。 Food 9。 Dress 10。 Entertaining 11。 Household Management 12。 Children About The Author: Blanche Ebbutt wrote the original editions of Don'ts for Husbands
Reviews
Sybil Colvin
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Wonderful
P。W。
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Another in the "Don'ts" series， which can pretty much be distilled down to:"You're probably an ass。 Cut that out。" Another in the "Don'ts" series， which can pretty much be distilled down to:"You're probably an ass。 Cut that out。" 。。。more
Jessica
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Similar to the Don’ts for wives， some of it is helpful such as not restricting your wife from commenting on politics and respecting her as a human。 However， some of it was silly， most women really could care less at this point if things are in fashion。
Trevor
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Many excellent snippets and tips that will ensure they my wife remains happy。
Linda Chan
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A fun little read。
Duncan Akyeampong
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Some things are out dated but it still has some values in it like supporting your wife and kids。 Being caring about wife feelings and understanding her。
Leigh
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Hilarious This made me laugh out loud， it is so dated， although there is some good sense in it as well。
Kendra DeMartino
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I mean it was hilarious 。 I’m not sure if I should be offended or just take it for the date it was written ！ Some rules still stand for sure lol
Tea
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I love this book， it filled with advice on how men should behave。 And most of it is still true today except this but about women wasting there time read fiction and trying to teach husband how to change that。 Surly men know most of this already， right？
Jacqueline Pinto
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Smart， funny and the advice is as true now as they were a century ago when this book was first published。 Should be recommended reading for every husband out there。
Nick Lawrence
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A charming little book offering sage advice to husbands everywhere including everyday habits， personal relations， jealousy， hints on finance， household matters， recreation and holidays health， dress， hobbies， food and children。 The basic rule？ Don’t be a bastard！！！
Val Cuellar
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Basic human being courtesies that nobody take on count anymore。 Absolutely important and real tips。
Ahmad Alduwailah
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نصائح جميلة للتعامل مع الطرف الآخر للمتزوجين، هذة خلاصة أمرأة تعرف ماذا تريد المرأة من الرجل، الكتاب صغير ويمكن حمله بالجيب لقراءته في أي مكان خارج المنزل، ويمكن إنهاءه في ساعه واحدة。للرجال المتزوجين أقول: طبقوا ما تقوله هذة السيدة حرفياً وأنعموا بالراحة والسعادة في حياتكم الزوجية。
Eric Konzelmann
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Cute :）
فاطمة غانم الابراهيم
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كتيب بسيط وصغير الحجم يسهل وضعه إما في الجيب أو الحقيبه ، ممكن الانتهاء من قراءته في جلسه واحده ، لكن لايعني بأنه قليل القيمه نظراً لصغر حجمه بل بالعكس يعرض نقاط التناقض في فهم الشريكين لكليهما تجاه الآخر وإن كانت بها عبارات ساخره لكنها لاتخلو من الجديه ، فأتفه العبارات والمواقف تسبب جروحاً في قلب الزوجة ، لذا على الزوج معرفة أن الثناء على أفعال زوجة صديقه قد تهين المرأة ، كما هول الحال لو توقف عن التغزل بإمرأته بعد مرور عقدين من زواجهما ！فكرة جميله لو تهديها لأحد مقدم على الزواج ، فعلى الرغم من كتيب بسيط وصغير الحجم يسهل وضعه إما في الجيب أو الحقيبه ، ممكن الانتهاء من قراءته في جلسه واحده ، لكن لايعني بأنه قليل القيمه نظراً لصغر حجمه بل بالعكس يعرض نقاط التناقض في فهم الشريكين لكليهما تجاه الآخر وإن كانت بها عبارات ساخره لكنها لاتخلو من الجديه ، فأتفه العبارات والمواقف تسبب جروحاً في قلب الزوجة ، لذا على الزوج معرفة أن الثناء على أفعال زوجة صديقه قد تهين المرأة ، كما هول الحال لو توقف عن التغزل بإمرأته بعد مرور عقدين من زواجهما ！فكرة جميله لو تهديها لأحد مقدم على الزواج ، فعلى الرغم من اختلاف ثقافة الغرب بالشرق تظل المرأة ككيان أنثوي لا ينتمي لهوية معينه 。 。。。more
Gary Vassallo
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This was hilarious。 Totally loved it。
Matea Vadlja
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Very witty！
Adam
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This was a gift from friends。 Although published in 1913， much of the advice is surprisingly relevant。
Byron Fike
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Surprisingly good adviseThe title got me interested， but the advise is often quite good。 It's a fun read and gives some interesting insight into family life at the beginning of the twentieth century。 Surprisingly good adviseThe title got me interested， but the advise is often quite good。 It's a fun read and gives some interesting insight into family life at the beginning of the twentieth century。 。。。more
Qassab
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Lots of useful and vey specific advice for husbands。However， I was expecting some humour， especially since the book is printed in a tiny size。 Also， some of the ideas are out dated which is understanable since the book was originaly published in 1913。Overall， very good book。
Joel Rockey
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My wife bought this book and the companion book， Don'ts For Wives， a few years back as a novelty。 We've had this book on our shelf the whole time， so I decided to pick it up and read it。 I'm glad I did。 It was an entertaining read。Although it was originally published in 1913， much of the advice in this book is still relevant over 100 years later。 Some of the "don'ts" are quite humorous and would only be suitable within the time period it was written。 Others however， were quite practical。 Here ar My wife bought this book and the companion book， Don'ts For Wives， a few years back as a novelty。 We've had this book on our shelf the whole time， so I decided to pick it up and read it。 I'm glad I did。 It was an entertaining read。Although it was originally published in 1913， much of the advice in this book is still relevant over 100 years later。 Some of the "don'ts" are quite humorous and would only be suitable within the time period it was written。 Others however， were quite practical。 Here are just a few of my favorites:"Don’t take it out on your poor wife every time you have a headache or a cold。 It isn’t her fault， and she has enough to do in nursing you， without having to put up with ill-humour into the bargain。""Don’t always refuse to go shopping with your wife。 Of course it’s a nuisance， but sometimes she honestly wants your advice， and you ought to be pleased to give it。""Don’t be conceited about your good looks。 It is more than probable that no one but yourself is aware of them; anyway， you are not responsible for them， and vanity in a man is ridiculous。""Don’t hesitate to mention the fact when you think your wife looks especially nice。 Your thinking so can give her no pleasure unless you tell your thought。""Don’t forget that actions speak louder than words。 It’s no use telling your wife how much you care for her if you do the very things that you know will make her unhappy" 。。。more
Ardyth
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My husband received this as a wedding gift from his friend， a lovely man who has been married for a decade， and who himself had read it。 It's a cute， fast read - less than an hour。 First published in 1913， so some advice is obviously dated。 Gloves， for example。 Nevertheless， some wise words in an amusing voice。 Hobbies and finance， for example。 Off to order Don'ts for Wives。 Fair is fair， after all， and maybe he'll read both if I do。 :） My husband received this as a wedding gift from his friend， a lovely man who has been married for a decade， and who himself had read it。 It's a cute， fast read - less than an hour。 First published in 1913， so some advice is obviously dated。 Gloves， for example。 Nevertheless， some wise words in an amusing voice。 Hobbies and finance， for example。 Off to order Don'ts for Wives。 Fair is fair， after all， and maybe he'll read both if I do。 :） 。。。more
Michael Anderson
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Interesting laundry list of advice for husbands to follow during their marriage。 Deb's grandmother gave this to me last time we were in England， and I really enjoyed reading it。 Mostly revolves around respect。 Also interesting in that it was first written in 1913 and many of its points reflect the culture at that time。 Short， obvious， useful， and entertaining。 Interesting laundry list of advice for husbands to follow during their marriage。 Deb's grandmother gave this to me last time we were in England， and I really enjoyed reading it。 Mostly revolves around respect。 Also interesting in that it was first written in 1913 and many of its points reflect the culture at that time。 Short， obvious， useful， and entertaining。 。。。more
Jim
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There are so many bits of "advice" that sound like one very exasperated woman chastising her husband。"Don't stubbornly refuse to put on your overcoat on a threatening morning and then when， after getting wet through on the way to the station and sitting in your wet clothes， you develop a bad cold， take it out of your wife by being crotchety and irritable。"I'm going to be more careful what I say in front of the servants， too。 And not give them the week off when we rent a house for holiday。It's an There are so many bits of "advice" that sound like one very exasperated woman chastising her husband。"Don't stubbornly refuse to put on your overcoat on a threatening morning and then when， after getting wet through on the way to the station and sitting in your wet clothes， you develop a bad cold， take it out of your wife by being crotchety and irritable。"I'm going to be more careful what I say in front of the servants， too。 And not give them the week off when we rent a house for holiday。It's an amusing light read。 I'm not sure what it means that I got it from my better half for our anniversary。 Maybe if I read the sequel I'll understand。。。 。。。more
Redfox5
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I read Don'ts for Husbands and Don'ts for Wives on the same day so I'm going to reveiw them both at the same time。 I actually expected these books to be alot more sexist than they were。 Not sure if the working class would have gotten much out of these as the book seems to think you should have servants。 They are both however， very funny。 Some quotes I read out loud to my boyfriend。 I think he should pay attention to this one - 'Don't grumble day after day at your wife's untidiness if you happen I read Don'ts for Husbands and Don'ts for Wives on the same day so I'm going to reveiw them both at the same time。 I actually expected these books to be alot more sexist than they were。 Not sure if the working class would have gotten much out of these as the book seems to think you should have servants。 They are both however， very funny。 Some quotes I read out loud to my boyfriend。 I think he should pay attention to this one - 'Don't grumble day after day at your wife's untidiness if you happen to be a methodical man。 It will be much easier， and will save friction， if you quietly put away the things she leaves lying about。'Also had to laugh at the advice for husbands about their wives reading -'Don't say your wife wastes time in reading， even if she reads only fiction。 Help her to choose good fiction。' Overall I perfered the Don'ts for Husbands over the Don'ts for wives but even that had pretty good advice -'Don't sneer at your mother's old-fashioned ways。 They suited your father well enough， and perhaps she can give you points。' Haha。 Great stuff。 Well worth a read！ 。。。more
Henri Moreaux
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Great little book from 1913， yes things were very different then so what was serious advice is now quite funny。 Yet， in saying this there is an undertone of sensibility to the advice presented and many of the items are equally as relevant today as they were 100 years ago。
Lionel
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I like the little feminist voice behind the purring of common sense。。。
Gary
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As old advice some of this comes from an age when the remains of the Christendom we live under were a bit stronger--it has wisdom which is owed to Christianity even if the author never mentions Christianity。 And as the remains of Christendom fade we as a people fail to see what past generations called common sense。 My wife and had had fun reading through these （this and the one for wives）。
عبدالمنعم الهوسه
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كتاب لطيف ، خفيف ، كتاب سيّارة جدير بالقراءة للمتزوجين و المقبلين على الزواج ،، بعض ما كتب لا يناسبنا كمسلمين محافظين ، لأن الكاتب غربي ،، لكنه لمفيد
Nurture Waratah
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In 1913， women were expected to wear smotheringly hot full length dresses in order to be considered decent。 Most women did not work outside of the home， being expected to be happy in their role as wife and mother。 In most of the world， women didn’t even have the right to vote。 Surely any marital advice given at this time would seem incredibly outdated or， at the very least， charmingly quaint， in the year 2011？ It was with this attitude that I first opened the pages of Don’ts For Wives by Blanche In 1913， women were expected to wear smotheringly hot full length dresses in order to be considered decent。 Most women did not work outside of the home， being expected to be happy in their role as wife and mother。 In most of the world， women didn’t even have the right to vote。 Surely any marital advice given at this time would seem incredibly outdated or， at the very least， charmingly quaint， in the year 2011？ It was with this attitude that I first opened the pages of Don’ts For Wives by Blanche Ebbutt。 It did not take me long to realise just how wrong I was。 While some of the tips are no longer relevant to the average reader – those having to do with how to deal with servants， for example – much of the wisdom within this volume is as relevant today as it was then。 I found myself taking note of many pieces of advice， with the intention of attempting to remedy my behaviour within my own marriage。Much chastened， I moved onto Don’ts for Husbands with a more open mind。 Once again， I was surprised at how relevant much of Ms Ebbutt’s advice is to today’s relationships and the progressiveness of some of the points， considering the era in which the book was written。It is a shame that these books have been so unknown for so long， as I feel that the advice in them is more relevant to a newly married couple than a dozen books of the Men are from Mars， Women are from Venus persuasion。 I would venture to go so far as to state that a copy of each of these books should be given to the happy couple as a wedding present （or perhaps a housewarming gift for those in less formal arrangements）。 Certainly anybody in a permanent relationship should consider reading them。 You will be surprised at just how much you are doing wrong。Advice for Wives*Don’t interpret too literally the ‘obey’ of the Marriage Service。 Your husband has no right to control your individuality。*Don’t let your husband feel that you are a ‘dear little woman’， but no good intellectually。 If you find yourself getting stale， wake up your brain。*Don’t keep your sweetest smiles and your best manners for outsiders; let your husband come first。*Don’t grumble because his idea of work differs from yours。 If he works hard at anything， let him do it his own way， and be satisfied。*Don’t refuse to see your husband’s jokes。 They may be pretty poor ones， but it won’t hurt you to smile at them。*Don’t allow yourself to get into the habit of dressing carelessly when there is ‘only’ your husband to see you。 Depend upon it he has no use for faded tea-gowns and badly dressed hair， and he abhors the sight of curling pins as much as other men do。 He is a man after all， and if his wife does not take the trouble to charm him， there are plenty of other women who will。Advice for Husbands*Don’t refuse to get up and investigate in the night if your wife hears an unusual noise， or fancies she smells fire or escaping gas。 She will be afraid of shaming you by getting up herself， and will lie awake working herself into a fever。 This may be illogical， but it’s true。*Don’t be surprised， or annoyed， or disappointed， to find， after treating your wife for years as a feather-brain， that you have made her one， and that she fails to rise to the occasion when you need her help。*Don’t belittle your wife before visitors。 You may think it a joke to speak of her little foibles， but she will not easily forgive you。*Don’t refuse your wife’s overtures when next you meet if you have unfortunately had a bit of a breeze。 Remember it costs her something to make them， and if you weren’t a bit of a pig， you would save her the embarrassment by making them yourself。*Don’t chide your wife in public， whatever you may feel it necessary to do in private。 She will not easily forgive you for having witnesses to her discomfiture。*Don’t call your wife a coward because she is afraid of a spider。 Probably in a case of real danger she would prove to be quite as brave as you。 。。。more
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